The hardest thing about moving to another country is leaving you family and friends.
Coming from a large family with a very large extended family I knew I would miss that. You miss the craic.
I lived abroad for over 2 years before and had thought seriously about emigrating to Canada a place I love with all my heart. But is was too far away from my family and to do what I enjoy doing was going to be more challenging there.
Then Malta came into my life. I came here to do a sound therapy course way back in 2001.
Within a week I was hooked. 3 1/2 hours from home, sunny, they speak English and they don;t really do rules (not the stupid anal ones that we in the UK do anyway, and I pray the EU will not ruin it), this was my idea of Heaven.
I knew I would love living in the sun. But I had no idea how much better I would feel on a daily basis.
Being outside is something I have always craved for, without understanding how essential it is for your health.
Swimming in the Med is something I LOVE every day. The feeling on my skin, the colours around me, just paradise for me.
When I left I only had one grandchild Xavi, the love of my life. He brought and continues to bring me so much love and joy probably only other grannies will understand. Leaving him was awful but he had gone to nursery and I knew he was not going to want to hang out with me for much longer anyway. And I also thought how much I would have loved to have a granny in the sun.
Now I have another two amazing little characters to join Xavi once again I seriously had to look at being away, not just from the kids but being able to help my daughter. My mum was an enormous support to me when my kids were young and I do not know how I would have survived without her. So I thought about it......
Then I spent 5 months in the UK last winter...... and boy it was so hard for me to stay up. The weather literally got me down, I knew they would not want me there in that frame of mind! Moaning, miserable and stuck inside with netflix.
No chance. Temporary can be done with love and appreciation, anything more was no longer an option.
And that's just my grandchildren.
How would it be without my friends?
I need not have worried as most of my close friends come here too. They all love it and they come back every year. We get to spend high quality time together in a totally different enviroment and you can visibly see the stress fall away after the first few days, you can see it in their faces and actions......yeah now I can relax.
But here is the amazing thing about being away. You appreciate everything at home and here in a completely different way. The people and the time. When my friends and family come here, I make time. When I go there, I make time.
TIME! (Not even real, a construct of the conscious mind, but omg does it cause stress.)
Time is a big thing for most of us now as we chase the clock.
I have designed my life in a way that is stress free, took me a while but hey, better late than never.
Now I have time for the people I want to be with. It took me years to figure out what exactly makes me happy, but now I have it.
The quality of the time is very different too.
You spend much longer periods together and have such fun and laughs catching up on everything.
The excitement of the countdowns, whether I am going there or they are coming here is such fun.
Meeting in a sunny Country changes the way we relate. I saw that at my 50th and at my friends Karen and Teds wedding in Spain, you literally go onto a different wavelength, and it's a great one.
The thing is, it turns out the best thing you can do for you, your health, your family, your neighbourhood and the planet is to be happy. To stay in the highest vibration possible. It does not matter what you eat, how much you exercise or how much money you have if you are miserable. In a low vibration.
Your frequency/vibration comes from your heart. And if that frequency is beaming loud, clear, high, pure love vibration then you are getting it right......no matter what anyone else is saying, thinking or doing. Your heart can never lie, it is impossible.
Do everything in your power to stay in a high vibe, the love vibration.
See the scientific evidence here.
That can mean letting go or making changes. Only you can tell.
So find what lights you up. Let go of all limitation and just go for it.
Find what works for you and those you love and remember time is one of our most precious gifts...... along with love of course.
Whatever you are doing make sure you are loving it.
Is it perfect? If you decide and believe it is then yes, it is. Savour and appreciate what you have and are or change it.
Set your sails in the direction you want to go, be prepared for a change in the winds, bend and move with them, be patient and enjoy the ride.
Stop chasing the clock......
And move into the flow.